Comments on: The Fourth, etc. http://obey.thenaturalorders.com/2009/07/06/the-fourth-etc/ Thu, 09 Sep 2010 11:50:54 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 By: kaya http://obey.thenaturalorders.com/2009/07/06/the-fourth-etc/comment-page-1/#comment-585 kaya Wed, 08 Jul 2009 12:37:12 +0000 http://obey.thenaturalorders.com/2009/07/06/the-fourth-etc/#comment-585 Did you know your reply button doesn't work? lol Well, yeah, if everyone was picking up on it being mean and nasty then there's probably something going on. Too bad she felt it was appropriate to do that in public. Poor guy. Any chance you'd be comfortable calling her on it? Sometimes it needs to be pointed out that you've crossed the line or they don't even realize it. Did you know your reply button doesn’t work? lol

Well, yeah, if everyone was picking up on it being mean and nasty then there’s probably something going on. Too bad she felt it was appropriate to do that in public. Poor guy.

Any chance you’d be comfortable calling her on it? Sometimes it needs to be pointed out that you’ve crossed the line or they don’t even realize it.

]]> By: Chloe http://obey.thenaturalorders.com/2009/07/06/the-fourth-etc/comment-page-1/#comment-584 Chloe Wed, 08 Jul 2009 01:20:22 +0000 http://obey.thenaturalorders.com/2009/07/06/the-fourth-etc/#comment-584 I give up. I'm now just replying to my own entries, and hoping maybe people read the comments more than once... @Amber - I know... I've seen a lot of women bitch about their men. And while it bothers me, I just... I tune it out now, or I try to. I don't do it, I have no desire to do it, and I try to tune it out when others do... I guess this one just shocked me because it was such a PRIVATE thing, yanno? I've heard all kinds of bitching, but SUCH a low blow? That was new for me. @Meow - I'd have to agree, Jax seems a little deflated of late. I think he DID notice that night too, and it was crushing - for him, for me to watch... I feel all sad now. Gah. @kaya - Oh I totally get that mean/snarky stuff. I'm a snarky wench (as shocking as I know that will be for some people to hear...) Antonio and I dish it out to each other all the time, with relish. I'm sure many would balk at the snark that comes outta my mouth, but... It's part of who I am. So I'm usually good at recognizing snark. (Plus, I have two little brothers. I'm highly practiced in the art of The Verbal Smackdown, Delivered With Love, I Swear. You gotta keep those little-brother-bastards in check somehow.) But this girl's wording was... Nasty. Mean. Ugly. I felt like I was watching her castrate him, but wasn't sure if I was being overly sensitive or if anyone else noticed... But my bro Harrison said something to me about it today (he wanted to know if I could think of a clever way for him to ask Jax if he and Sienna were okay), so now I know it wasn't me being crazy. Harrison's usually all ADHD and oblivious to that sorta stuff, so if HE noticed? Yep. It was there. Which sucks. I give up. I’m now just replying to my own entries, and hoping maybe people read the comments more than once…

@Amber – I know… I’ve seen a lot of women bitch about their men. And while it bothers me, I just… I tune it out now, or I try to. I don’t do it, I have no desire to do it, and I try to tune it out when others do… I guess this one just shocked me because it was such a PRIVATE thing, yanno? I’ve heard all kinds of bitching, but SUCH a low blow? That was new for me.

@Meow – I’d have to agree, Jax seems a little deflated of late. I think he DID notice that night too, and it was crushing – for him, for me to watch… I feel all sad now. Gah.

@kaya – Oh I totally get that mean/snarky stuff. I’m a snarky wench (as shocking as I know that will be for some people to hear…) Antonio and I dish it out to each other all the time, with relish. I’m sure many would balk at the snark that comes outta my mouth, but… It’s part of who I am. So I’m usually good at recognizing snark. (Plus, I have two little brothers. I’m highly practiced in the art of The Verbal Smackdown, Delivered With Love, I Swear. You gotta keep those little-brother-bastards in check somehow.) But this girl’s wording was… Nasty. Mean. Ugly. I felt like I was watching her castrate him, but wasn’t sure if I was being overly sensitive or if anyone else noticed… But my bro Harrison said something to me about it today (he wanted to know if I could think of a clever way for him to ask Jax if he and Sienna were okay), so now I know it wasn’t me being crazy. Harrison’s usually all ADHD and oblivious to that sorta stuff, so if HE noticed? Yep. It was there. Which sucks.

]]> By: kaya http://obey.thenaturalorders.com/2009/07/06/the-fourth-etc/comment-page-1/#comment-583 kaya Wed, 08 Jul 2009 00:49:19 +0000 http://obey.thenaturalorders.com/2009/07/06/the-fourth-etc/#comment-583 Was she angry about it or just teasing? Cuz, I don't think I'd think anything of it- unless there was underlying anger/tension. But then we joke around like that all the time. That sort of mean/snarky humor. I mean, I don't talk badly about his penis because it's NOT small... but we do jab at each other for fun. Was she angry about it or just teasing? Cuz, I don’t think I’d think anything of it- unless there was underlying anger/tension.

But then we joke around like that all the time. That sort of mean/snarky humor.

I mean, I don’t talk badly about his penis because it’s NOT small… but we do jab at each other for fun.

]]> By: Meow http://obey.thenaturalorders.com/2009/07/06/the-fourth-etc/comment-page-1/#comment-582 Meow Wed, 08 Jul 2009 00:27:04 +0000 http://obey.thenaturalorders.com/2009/07/06/the-fourth-etc/#comment-582 I've been guilty of passive-aggressive behavior in my past life, before DD - I don't get away with it now. This was a very personal and intimate insult, even if it was hard to notice. I bet he notices when she says things like that. I think it probably erodes their love every time it happens. Meow I’ve been guilty of passive-aggressive behavior in my past life, before DD – I don’t get away with it now. This was a very personal and intimate insult, even if it was hard to notice. I bet he notices when she says things like that. I think it probably erodes their love every time it happens. Meow

]]> By: Amber http://obey.thenaturalorders.com/2009/07/06/the-fourth-etc/comment-page-1/#comment-580 Amber Mon, 06 Jul 2009 16:01:47 +0000 http://obey.thenaturalorders.com/2009/07/06/the-fourth-etc/#comment-580 Some women think nothing of putting down their man. I often wonder what they'd think if they saw/heard a man putting down his woman that way. I know they'd freak out and get mad and protest. But it's just ducky to do it the other way, right? Never made any sense to me. Some women think nothing of putting down their man. I often wonder what they’d think if they saw/heard a man putting down his woman that way. I know they’d freak out and get mad and protest.

But it’s just ducky to do it the other way, right?

Never made any sense to me.

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