Comments on: FetLife Schmetlife http://obey.thenaturalorders.com/2009/02/05/fetlife-schmetlife/ Thu, 09 Sep 2010 11:50:54 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 By: Chloe http://obey.thenaturalorders.com/2009/02/05/fetlife-schmetlife/comment-page-1/#comment-1312 Chloe Tue, 06 Jul 2010 21:57:17 +0000 http://obey.thenaturalorders.com/2009/02/05/fetlife-schmetlife/#comment-1312 I can tell you're butthurt about this. Sorry 'bout that. But let's be clear, here. My OPINION of FetLife is... wait for it... an opinion! I KNOW! Crazy, huh? Nowhere did I say, "There are three people registered on FetLife." Yes, that could prompt you to say, "No there aren't. Do your research." And that would be logical and appropriate. But me saying, "I think it's fairly worthless" and you countering with "But half a million people registered!" is a little ridiculous. Feel free to do the math on what half a million people <em>actually </em>represents in the world, and then count me among the 99.99+% of the world's population that doesn't cream their pants over FetLife. I can tell you’re butthurt about this. Sorry ’bout that.

But let’s be clear, here. My OPINION of FetLife is… wait for it… an opinion! I KNOW! Crazy, huh? Nowhere did I say, “There are three people registered on FetLife.” Yes, that could prompt you to say, “No there aren’t. Do your research.” And that would be logical and appropriate. But me saying, “I think it’s fairly worthless” and you countering with “But half a million people registered!” is a little ridiculous.

Feel free to do the math on what half a million people actually represents in the world, and then count me among the 99.99+% of the world’s population that doesn’t cream their pants over FetLife.

]]> By: Matt http://obey.thenaturalorders.com/2009/02/05/fetlife-schmetlife/comment-page-1/#comment-1311 Matt Tue, 06 Jul 2010 21:14:27 +0000 http://obey.thenaturalorders.com/2009/02/05/fetlife-schmetlife/#comment-1311 I love seeing uninformed people comment on things. Perhaps next time your research might actually involve checking out the topic of your blogging. It's true, FetLife isn't for everyone...but it is a hit with nearly half a million people. Those people all have varying levels of involvement, but many people choose to increase the scope of their knowledge on kinky topics and FetLife is a great way to connect with thousands of others who might have more knowledge that you. It's helped people through tough times, it's educated many, entertained most, and opened up a whole new world to many others. So uh...yeah...I can see why you think it's such a waste of time. I love seeing uninformed people comment on things. Perhaps next time your research might actually involve checking out the topic of your blogging. It’s true, FetLife isn’t for everyone…but it is a hit with nearly half a million people. Those people all have varying levels of involvement, but many people choose to increase the scope of their knowledge on kinky topics and FetLife is a great way to connect with thousands of others who might have more knowledge that you. It’s helped people through tough times, it’s educated many, entertained most, and opened up a whole new world to many others.

So uh…yeah…I can see why you think it’s such a waste of time.

]]> By: Michael Diamond http://obey.thenaturalorders.com/2009/02/05/fetlife-schmetlife/comment-page-1/#comment-340 Michael Diamond Mon, 20 Apr 2009 20:28:23 +0000 http://obey.thenaturalorders.com/2009/02/05/fetlife-schmetlife/#comment-340 Hello :) I'd like to respectfully submit another option for kinky social networking... KinkySpace.com I started this site with my brother about 8 months ago, and it's been live since last October. We're growing at a nice pace, and are continually working to make the site more fun and less stress :) Hello :)
I’d like to respectfully submit another option for kinky social networking… KinkySpace.com

I started this site with my brother about 8 months ago, and it’s been live since last October. We’re growing at a nice pace, and are continually working to make the site more fun and less stress :)

]]> By: Chloe http://obey.thenaturalorders.com/2009/02/05/fetlife-schmetlife/comment-page-1/#comment-102 Chloe Fri, 06 Feb 2009 16:29:04 +0000 http://obey.thenaturalorders.com/2009/02/05/fetlife-schmetlife/#comment-102 Ha! Brilliant comment, bliss. I too worry I could not muster the maturity necessary to make my posts about more than simply stabbing people. (Antonio is going to laugh at this, because it's a bit of a running joke that when I get irritated, I want to "fucking stab things, omg!") Although, I would say I'd want to stab them in the eye with rusty forks. So it's probably TOTALLY different. :D Really, though.. I WANT to be able to get some material somewhere that I can turn into productive and thoughtful posts. Hrm... Ha! Brilliant comment, bliss.

I too worry I could not muster the maturity necessary to make my posts about more than simply stabbing people. (Antonio is going to laugh at this, because it’s a bit of a running joke that when I get irritated, I want to “fucking stab things, omg!”) Although, I would say I’d want to stab them in the eye with rusty forks. So it’s probably TOTALLY different. :D

Really, though.. I WANT to be able to get some material somewhere that I can turn into productive and thoughtful posts. Hrm…

]]> By: Chloe http://obey.thenaturalorders.com/2009/02/05/fetlife-schmetlife/comment-page-1/#comment-101 Chloe Fri, 06 Feb 2009 16:06:00 +0000 http://obey.thenaturalorders.com/2009/02/05/fetlife-schmetlife/#comment-101 Mmhmm, my brain gets me in BIG trouble. I often think I should reevaluate my position on breathplay, because a bit of oxygen deprivation might do me a world of good. I realize there is no way to say this without sounding like a jerk, but I am quite intelligent. I'm no genius, but I've got a great brain, and a fabulous education behind me. I have, since a young age, been able to emotionally manipulate and mentally out-think almost everyone around me, including my father. (My mother may very well BE a genius, so not so much there with the mental stuff, but emotionally? She's a woman and my mother, we were on equal footing at least.) I am used to be able to conceal things I don't want known, and being able to out-think everyone around me. These habits, these safety nets have been hard as hell to let go of. And I believe I can be rid of the habits, eventually, but it's the "don't think, just DO" that I fear I will always struggle with. I can't NOT think. I can't do it. I'm incapable. I've compromised by thinking WHILE doing, but that can still cause me great distress. My saving grace is that Antonio is smarter than I am. Sure, there are things about which I am more educated, and things about which he is more educated. But he is one of the few people who can see through my intricate mental processes, and he is the only one who DOES something about it. It's a blessing, and a curse. I feel so undermined and stupid, sometimes. Other times, I am awed. And always, when all is said and done, I am grateful to be transparent in moments when I am actively trying not to be. It's a feeling I have never had, in nearly 26 years of life. Well, hell, I'm rambling. Thank you! Mmhmm, my brain gets me in BIG trouble. I often think I should reevaluate my position on breathplay, because a bit of oxygen deprivation might do me a world of good. I realize there is no way to say this without sounding like a jerk, but I am quite intelligent. I’m no genius, but I’ve got a great brain, and a fabulous education behind me. I have, since a young age, been able to emotionally manipulate and mentally out-think almost everyone around me, including my father. (My mother may very well BE a genius, so not so much there with the mental stuff, but emotionally? She’s a woman and my mother, we were on equal footing at least.)

I am used to be able to conceal things I don’t want known, and being able to out-think everyone around me. These habits, these safety nets have been hard as hell to let go of. And I believe I can be rid of the habits, eventually, but it’s the “don’t think, just DO” that I fear I will always struggle with. I can’t NOT think. I can’t do it. I’m incapable. I’ve compromised by thinking WHILE doing, but that can still cause me great distress.

My saving grace is that Antonio is smarter than I am. Sure, there are things about which I am more educated, and things about which he is more educated. But he is one of the few people who can see through my intricate mental processes, and he is the only one who DOES something about it. It’s a blessing, and a curse. I feel so undermined and stupid, sometimes. Other times, I am awed. And always, when all is said and done, I am grateful to be transparent in moments when I am actively trying not to be. It’s a feeling I have never had, in nearly 26 years of life.

Well, hell, I’m rambling.

Thank you!

]]> By: Chloe http://obey.thenaturalorders.com/2009/02/05/fetlife-schmetlife/comment-page-1/#comment-100 Chloe Fri, 06 Feb 2009 15:53:43 +0000 http://obey.thenaturalorders.com/2009/02/05/fetlife-schmetlife/#comment-100 You know, that's another thing I'm terribly curious about. (Maybe you have given me an idea for a post!) I didn't meet Antonio in any kind of BDSM-related venue. And I don't have any experience with already KNOWING that about someone. Antonio and I had a short, delicate dance to test each other out in terms of our desires for dominance and submission. But we had grown to know and like each other before that. And while our interactions were (as I look back on it) laced with dominance and submission, he's not foolhardy enough to start commanding around women he likes, threatening to punish them if they don't do everything he asks, just to see if they might like it... And I wasn't going to be saying "Yes, Grand Master Overlord and Love of my life, your wish is my command!" and fall into a sweeping bow two days after meeting him... (Come to think of it, if I EVER do that, you all need to shout at me.) I'm curious about whether it helps or hinders to have people meeting each other based on these desires... I'm sure it can go either way, but I'll save the rest of my musings for later! Thank you! You know, that’s another thing I’m terribly curious about. (Maybe you have given me an idea for a post!) I didn’t meet Antonio in any kind of BDSM-related venue. And I don’t have any experience with already KNOWING that about someone. Antonio and I had a short, delicate dance to test each other out in terms of our desires for dominance and submission. But we had grown to know and like each other before that. And while our interactions were (as I look back on it) laced with dominance and submission, he’s not foolhardy enough to start commanding around women he likes, threatening to punish them if they don’t do everything he asks, just to see if they might like it… And I wasn’t going to be saying “Yes, Grand Master Overlord and Love of my life, your wish is my command!” and fall into a sweeping bow two days after meeting him… (Come to think of it, if I EVER do that, you all need to shout at me.)

I’m curious about whether it helps or hinders to have people meeting each other based on these desires… I’m sure it can go either way, but I’ll save the rest of my musings for later!

Thank you!

]]> By: Chloe http://obey.thenaturalorders.com/2009/02/05/fetlife-schmetlife/comment-page-1/#comment-99 Chloe Fri, 06 Feb 2009 15:42:59 +0000 http://obey.thenaturalorders.com/2009/02/05/fetlife-schmetlife/#comment-99 Hrm.... I guess I was imagining it somewhat like a forum. But joining groups? Do you have to be part of a group to talk about something? I'm so hopelessly confused. (For a change, yanno.) But where ELSE shall I get topics? Gah! I'm wondering if Antonio will let me do a post about how much I enjoy Jergens Naturals lotion. I fear he will not. I tried to tell him about my new lotion last night and I detected a HINT of sarcasm in his "It's 93% natural? Well, oh my God." Hmph. Hrm…. I guess I was imagining it somewhat like a forum. But joining groups? Do you have to be part of a group to talk about something? I’m so hopelessly confused. (For a change, yanno.) But where ELSE shall I get topics? Gah!

I’m wondering if Antonio will let me do a post about how much I enjoy Jergens Naturals lotion. I fear he will not. I tried to tell him about my new lotion last night and I detected a HINT of sarcasm in his “It’s 93% natural? Well, oh my God.”

Hmph.

]]> By: His bliss http://obey.thenaturalorders.com/2009/02/05/fetlife-schmetlife/comment-page-1/#comment-98 His bliss Fri, 06 Feb 2009 10:55:35 +0000 http://obey.thenaturalorders.com/2009/02/05/fetlife-schmetlife/#comment-98 I hate fetlife. Its dull. Its boring. Not to mention it reminds me of being in school with the bitchy shit. I love that kaya likes it cos then I get to read all her awesome posts. Mine would be about stabbing people in the eye with ice picks. See? I hate fetlife. big hugs bitchy bliss xox I hate fetlife. Its dull. Its boring.

Not to mention it reminds me of being in school with the bitchy shit.

I love that kaya likes it cos then I get to read all her awesome posts.

Mine would be about stabbing people in the eye with ice picks.

See?

I hate fetlife.

big hugs

bitchy bliss
xox

]]> By: Cleo Patra http://obey.thenaturalorders.com/2009/02/05/fetlife-schmetlife/comment-page-1/#comment-97 Cleo Patra Fri, 06 Feb 2009 09:23:49 +0000 http://obey.thenaturalorders.com/2009/02/05/fetlife-schmetlife/#comment-97 I've actually never heard of Fetlife, LOL, but I do like what you wrote in this post because I am struggling with the same brain frame of mind thing. How do you want to be good and conform to HIM and not use your brain? I really have a lot of testing going on inside my head. LOL Cleo I’ve actually never heard of Fetlife, LOL, but I do like what you wrote in this post because I am struggling with the same brain frame of mind thing. How do you want to be good and conform to HIM and not use your brain? I really have a lot of testing going on inside my head. LOL Cleo

]]> By: M:e http://obey.thenaturalorders.com/2009/02/05/fetlife-schmetlife/comment-page-1/#comment-96 M:e Fri, 06 Feb 2009 07:54:06 +0000 http://obey.thenaturalorders.com/2009/02/05/fetlife-schmetlife/#comment-96 I kind of understand what kaya was saying about it giving her blogging material....where something read or discussed triggers something for a posting. I guess I just get that from reading other blogs and the interaction I get from fellow bloggers. I too joined Fetlife, but saw more there which frustrated me than interested me so very quickly left it alone. M and I met through another very similar site, and I guess were were just curious to see whether Fetlife was any different....it wasn't. love and hugs xxx I kind of understand what kaya was saying about it giving her blogging material….where something read or discussed triggers something for a posting. I guess I just get that from reading other blogs and the interaction I get from fellow bloggers.

I too joined Fetlife, but saw more there which frustrated me than interested me so very quickly left it alone. M and I met through another very similar site, and I guess were were just curious to see whether Fetlife was any different….it wasn’t.

love and hugs xxx

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