Comments on: Pssst… My name isn’t Chloe… http://obey.thenaturalorders.com/2008/12/19/pssst-my-name-isnt-chloe/ Fri, 23 Jul 2010 15:15:47 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: MJ's slave http://obey.thenaturalorders.com/2008/12/19/pssst-my-name-isnt-chloe/comment-page-1/#comment-8 MJ's slave Tue, 23 Dec 2008 14:27:33 +0000 http://obey.thenaturalorders.com/?p=32#comment-8 Welcome to the blogosphere! We all have our reasons for maintaining the degree of anonymity we do. Some of examples you sight certainly make it clear why it's best to keep your actual identity discreet. We sort of walk the line....I feel if someone either of us knew professionally was able to figure out who we are by photos or writing...they must be equally interested in BDSM. But it is a fine line...MJ knows the risk He takes with the blog and decides to proceed, for now. Best wishes with your new journal! MJ's slave nik Welcome to the blogosphere!

We all have our reasons for maintaining the degree of anonymity we do. Some of examples you sight certainly make it clear why it’s best to keep your actual identity discreet.

We sort of walk the line….I feel if someone either of us knew professionally was able to figure out who we are by photos or writing…they must be equally interested in BDSM. But it is a fine line…MJ knows the risk He takes with the blog and decides to proceed, for now.

Best wishes with your new journal!

MJ’s slave nik

]]> By: Catalina Loves http://obey.thenaturalorders.com/2008/12/19/pssst-my-name-isnt-chloe/comment-page-1/#comment-7 Catalina Loves Sun, 21 Dec 2008 01:27:31 +0000 http://obey.thenaturalorders.com/?p=32#comment-7 ...the entire phenomenon of being outted and ostracized over what is written is unbelievable to me. What is erotic fiction, fantasy, and real? Nobody truly knows... To be honest, the bigger risk is that your friends and family will no longer accept you, to me this is the most painful part - my own mother, father, sister, uncle... none of them will even speak to me now because of my writing. Stay underground and protect your privacy viciously if you are at all worried about this - and think closely about how you could be outted - I know of two recent occurrences where large sex toy companies leaked their affiliate lists on the internet, accidentally or not, with private information including real names and addresses. If I know of this happening twice in six months, then imagine what I don't know!! So for purposes of privacy, I'd like to recommend that people Not sign up to do any reviews or affiliate linking on their blogs if they truly wish to remain anon. Being anon and being publicly out both have their advantages and disadvantages - I do have the freedom to do as I wish on my blog now without fear that she or he will see it or someone will guess it's me. I can write my "real name" (Kiki) and not worry that I'll be fired if my boss sees this, for example. But it is painful to go through and if you read Sex In The Public Square, you'll see a post done by a friend of mine who was outted as a sex worker and lost everything as a result, and was almost literally chased out of town. Good luck to you!! Catalina …the entire phenomenon of being outted and ostracized over what is written is unbelievable to me. What is erotic fiction, fantasy, and real? Nobody truly knows… To be honest, the bigger risk is that your friends and family will no longer accept you, to me this is the most painful part – my own mother, father, sister, uncle… none of them will even speak to me now because of my writing. Stay underground and protect your privacy viciously if you are at all worried about this – and think closely about how you could be outted – I know of two recent occurrences where large sex toy companies leaked their affiliate lists on the internet, accidentally or not, with private information including real names and addresses. If I know of this happening twice in six months, then imagine what I don’t know!! So for purposes of privacy, I’d like to recommend that people Not sign up to do any reviews or affiliate linking on their blogs if they truly wish to remain anon.

Being anon and being publicly out both have their advantages and disadvantages – I do have the freedom to do as I wish on my blog now without fear that she or he will see it or someone will guess it’s me. I can write my “real name” (Kiki) and not worry that I’ll be fired if my boss sees this, for example. But it is painful to go through and if you read Sex In The Public Square, you’ll see a post done by a friend of mine who was outted as a sex worker and lost everything as a result, and was almost literally chased out of town.

Good luck to you!!
Catalina

]]> By: His bliss http://obey.thenaturalorders.com/2008/12/19/pssst-my-name-isnt-chloe/comment-page-1/#comment-6 His bliss Sat, 20 Dec 2008 03:33:04 +0000 http://obey.thenaturalorders.com/?p=32#comment-6 Its ridiculous isn't it? These blogs are supossed to be a place where we can come and say what we like about our lives and suffer no repercusions. Mine is supposed to be a place where I can say whatever I am feeling and HE can read it and know what is going on. Now? I creep around and speak in riddles because the court has ordered I can not talk about the proceedings on the internet. And I hate that I can't talk about it because it is such a huge part of my life. Sometimes I wish I had stayed anonymous. It would have been much easier and less traumatic. I love this post and I'll be visiting again soon. Love bliss xoxox Its ridiculous isn’t it? These blogs are supossed to be a place where we can come and say what we like about our lives and suffer no repercusions. Mine is supposed to be a place where I can say whatever I am feeling and HE can read it and know what is going on.

Now? I creep around and speak in riddles because the court has ordered I can not talk about the proceedings on the internet. And I hate that I can’t talk about it because it is such a huge part of my life.

Sometimes I wish I had stayed anonymous.

It would have been much easier and less traumatic.

I love this post and I’ll be visiting again soon.

Love
bliss
xoxox

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